So let's see so far you have discovered yourself and understand and acknowledge you positive as well as your negative attributes. You have through this discovery created a positive environment both internally and externally. The Law of Attraction is working well for you in a lot of aspects of your life. Now you are seeing the benefits of it in your personal relationships. Your smile now captivates. Your self confidence shines. You have men quality men approaching you and finding you more intriguing than before. What is it? You ask yourself. Where were these kinds of men before? The answer is they were already there. However you were in a position to receive them. So now that you are its time to find that one for you. So you've gather you wants and desires in your mind. Now you have to determine which of those wants and desires are you willing to compromise.
br>Yes COMPROMISE! See a good man may be right in front of your face but you can easily get caught up with matching every want and desire in a man that you miss out on a good thing. Finding a good man is not about finding a man who can meet every want and desire. It's about finding a man who can fit your life and compliment your wants and desires. You must have an open mind and open heart to receive. Although you may desire a rich and famous man in your life you may get a good man who is middle class and not famous at all. However if the qualities he posses truly make you happy then you have to decide is he worth the compromise? But it's not your choice alone. What if you are not what he wants and desires wholly? He has that same choice to make. You may want a man who wants kids or more kids. You may want a man who will allow you to stay home and raise the family. You may even want a man who will watch Lifetime with you. These are all things you want and desire of a man. However he may want someone who will have their own goals and a career. He may not want to watch lifetime. He may not have a strong desire for kids at that present time in life.
Does that make him less of a good man? No, it just makes him possibly not the man for you. Maybe you do not need him to watch Lifetime or maybe he would say sure I can do that if you watch the game with me from time to time. Remember in the beginning of a relationship feel like you are in love and can tend to compromise so much easier than when the relationship begins to add time. However if you are both true to yourselves and true to one another you will not give in to the power of lust and infatuation. Also you will not over compromise your wants and desires that you hold dear to you. Do not allow the fear of losing him to interfere with you decision. Be upfront in the beginning. It will save you a lot of heartache in the end.
So once again the key is COMMUNICATION. That's the one thing that never changes in a relationship. Whether it's brand new or 50 years in marriage you have to know how to communicate. If you desire a man with certain qualities and are not willing to compromise any of them, then do not engage in a relationship with a man who does not fit those criteria. It will only bring your spirits down as well as cause negativity in your mind and heart. When the relationship does not go as you want it. Just think how can a relationship go well when you expectation of someone is different than what he can give or is giving you. So I'm not saying you have to compromise in order to find a good man but you have to one day realize that a good man is still a man. Explain to him tell him your concerns what you want and what you do not want. He is not going to be a perfect model of your imagination. He will come with a life of his own filled with mistakes and triumphs but what you focus on in his life is what's going to stand out. You must find out what he wants and expects from you and share the same with him. If they don't match or are non-negotiable then you have that choice to walk away. Also understand he has the same choice. You must take your time and let your environment flow with you. Do not take steps back. Keep moving forward. If you can not find a common ground do not burn the bridge this person may add some positivity and motivation to your life.
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