A Good Man?: A Good Man In You
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A Good Man In You
Are there any good men left? If so, how do I find one? It seems these questions never get answered the way you want them to be. Being a man I get into many conversations and debates over these questions with my female friends. However I understand their view, and through our many conversations and small arguments I have realized that good man are apparently extinct or invisible. I would really like to believe there are good men in this world and hopefully they are just unseen. I consider myself to be a good man. However I’m not perfect and that is where I think where the “Good Man” goes “Bad.” So I will address and put my own two cents into this life long debate
Are there any good men left? To answer that question “Yes!” That simple, right? Unfortunately it isn’t that simple. There are possibly plenty of good men left in this chaotic world. So now you’re thinking well if there are plenty where are they? How do I find one? Here’s is my take on it….
A good man is a man who appeals to you with the qualities you hold dear to the most. A good man is one who is real, who you can communicate, who holds you with as much value as you hold him, who ambitious, forward moving and thinking, faithful and strong. These are just a few qualities that make up a good man. There are many more that can be listed. However I think you forget that no matter how good of a man he is still just a man. A human being who is capable of mistakes, bad moods, hurt feelings and so on. When you think of a good man we have to first take an honest look at yourself. You have to see yourself as he would see you. Think about it you want this man to love you be there for you. But first do you love yourself? Do you understand why you are the way you are? Are you happy with the things going on in your life? If you aren’t happy with yourself then how can you begin to bring someone into your life and add happiness? This is where you have to be honest and thorough. The process is not simple if you aren’t happy with yourself truly. It becomes tiresome trying to fix you when in your mind you think its not you it’s them (well us). Now I’m no where placing blame on you for the shortcomings of men. We men have a lot of work also. However in order to be able to receive and truly appreciate a good man. You must be in good spirits with your mind and heart. If yourself esteem is low you can’t expect a man to give you that boost. You have to find it within then a good man can aide in helping you keep it elevated. If you are unhappy with your body then can’t expect a man alone to make you feel better about it. You have to take the steps and sacrifice that are required to obtain the body you want. Then your man will help aide you in staying focused and you will appreciate the compliments more and truly believe them. Now some women state they keep finding the wrong man or they attract the wrong kind of man. Why do you think that is? I say this “a good man is no more than a reflection of a good woman.”